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How To Tell If Someone You Meet In An Online Profile Or Advert Is Married/Partnered Or A Troll - 2

Troll Detection Made Easy

Due to their overwhelming lack of social skills, the gayman's 'trolls' aren't that hard to detect if you know whatto look for.

The majority of them are usually oblivious to anyone oranything but themselves, and thus behave in a way thatmakes you shudder with embarrassment.

A classic example is someone who sends you naked picturesof themselves without asking, or giving any indicationthat's what they're going to do, first.

Another example is someone who bugs you for your personalcontact details even after you have already declined.

There are literally millions of gay men and women onlinedaters out there - you can easily afford to be picky.

If you have a bad feeling about someone, trust it!

However, be aware that there are some other, moremalevolent trolls, who will try to bait you and lure you into talking with them or meeting them.

So how can you tell if they're a troll?

When I first began using online dating I had no idea,I was completely naive.

Resultingly, I fell victim to a troll on more than oneoccasion - thankfully I have never been physically bashedbut:

? I've been homo-bashed in a chat room by an obviousgay-person hater. In fact, I think it was a 2 or 3 of themhaving a good laugh.

? I've gone on dates with troll's, more than once.Shortly after we met it became very obvious they werenothing like they described.

? I had to change my phone number because I foolishlygave it out to a desperate troll who wouldn't take 'no' foran answer.

I'm not trying to showcase my stupidity! I am just givingthe reasons why I had to, out of necessity, develop somekind of early detection system.

After a lot of trial-and-error, for both myself and myclients, I developed a check-list of yellow-flags'. Hereare atwo of them:

1. Move-Out Ya Bum!

If you get any hints that they still live with their momand dad, that's a sign of a troll.

If they are young then it's probably OK, but most gayonline daters are mid-20's and upwards.

From my experience, a grown gay man or woman still livingat home is cause for concern.

If a relationship did start, you would have to always useyour place. Additionally, you have to wonder if his or herparents even know your date is gay.

If they don't, visiting would be like being 14 all overagain?.imagine - you visit, date introduces you as a friendand then tells his/her mother you are going up to thebedroom..

Mom asks if you want some milk and cookies... and the wholetime you're in constant fear she will burst through thedoor at any time?

You get the picture.

Be sure to clarify, however, who is living with whom. Itmay be the case that it is the dater's house and theirparents actually live with them.

2. The Pungency of Desperation

Any whiff of desperation is a sign - if they can't 'get'anyone, there's probably a good reason.

Desperation can come in the form of:

- wanting to hook-up for a date very soon after you havemet them online.

- claiming to love you even though you haven't yet met inperson.

- making future plans for your lives together even thoughyou haven't yet met in person.

- talking a lot about depression, intense loneliness,suicide and other dark thoughts.

- telling you very private details about their life way toosoon.

- offering to give you their contact details even thoughyou've only spoken (typed) once or twice online.

- when you log into your online dating service there are 6messages waiting for you even though you only met themonline for the first time yesterday.

- being too agreeable. Very easy to fall for this one. Ifthey seem to have no opinion of their own and concur withyou on every issue, they may be willing to say anything toget a date.

What do you do? Run like hell!

No seriously, ever heard the song 'Klingons Off TheStarboard Bow'?

Well the more desperate a dater is, the more they willcling-on.. it could become a problem you can do without..like I said earlier, it lead to me changing my phonenumber!

That's it for today, we have run out of room. To sum up,you need these to recognize these early warning signs tosave you from the same tragic events I endured.

So, be wary of a grown man or woman who still hasn't leftthe nest and be even more wary of the desperate-dater.

In the next part of this series I will discuss 2 moreyellow-flag indications the person on the other end isprobably a troll and how to get around them.

I call them the 'Statute of Contact Limitations' and 'NoSepia-Toned Photos Please'.

Your Truly,
Adam Coole
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