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Taming Your Gremlin
"Who am I fooling?" "I'm a loser," "I'm too old," "I'm fat," "I'm not smart enough," "I have no talent," "I'll never finish it," "It's too late," "I'm not good enough," and on and on. Sound familiar? Have you ever started a project or had an idea, onlyto abandon it as soon as negative self-talk arose?You know what I mean ~ those nasty little voices thatstop you from getting what you want? The longer I work with people, the more convinced Iam that a majority of suffering could be alleviated bythe simple task of taming one's Gremlin (or gremlins). "Gremlin," is "an imaginary small creature humorously blamed for the faulty operation of airplanes or the disruption of any procedure," according to Webster's New World Dictionary. While Webster's defines Gremlin with a twist of humor,I don't think there's anything funny about the destructionGremlins leave in their wake. I regularly hear about unfulfilled dreams, unwritten books,unsung songs and unlived lives. If you can change your beliefs, you can change your life. In his book, "Taming Your Gremlin, A Guide toEnjoying Yourself, " Richard Carson says, "There's a Gremlin within you. He is the narrator in your head." Some people think this narrator is their conscience speaking. I don't think so. My belief is that ourconscience only tells us good things such as,"Call your mother," or "Give money to the poor."Carson says, "In order to tame your Gremlin, youmust detect his presence; and to detect his presence,you must differentiate yourself from him." So - what can you do? Here are some suggestions. First, remember that your Gremlin isn't you, it's only a bad habit formed long ago in an effort to protect yourself from rejection. Second, remember the third law of motion from Physics: for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction. So, for every negative statement you've told yourself, there is an equal positive statement. Here's an exercise I do withclients and in seminars. Take a piece of paper andfold it in half. On the left hand side, write down allthe comments that come to mind whenever youset out to try something new or fail at something. Give yourself some time to make a list of 8 or10 statements. On the right hand side, write the mirror image of thenegative one. For example, if you've written, "I'mtoo old," the mirror image would be, "There's stilltime." If you've written, "I'm stupid," the mirrorimage would be, "I'm smart." When you're finished you'll have your own, verypersonal list of affirmations. Copy these onto nicepaper and post them in prominent places. Look atthem and read them throughout the day and see howit feels. It sure beats beating yourself up. Theseaffirmations have just as much weight as the negativeones, and a lot more power if you make room for them to grow inside you. At first they feel awkward and unnatural to say, just like beginning a new work out program feels unnatural. With time, these new statements can be formed into a new habit replacing the old ones and changing your life in subtle and not so subtle ways. What do you have to lose? Carol Moss Carol Moss is a LCSW and Life Coach who loves working with smart, creative women who want to figure out what's next in their lives. A graduate of Bryn Mawr College, she has been a life coach for 5 years and a therapist for 10 years. Carol brings many disciplines to her coaching, including her training, many years performing as a professional actress and life experience. She is also a professional singer, performing with the duo The Sparkle Sisters (http://www.SparkleSistersMusic.com).
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